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Weeks ago, the oldest one comes home from school with what seems like the Webster's dictionary full of papers. It was all fliers, notes, letters, updates, and homework. While going through it I noticed that the annual Giving Tree was set up outside the principal's office. It was to be filled with warm hats, mittens, and scarves for children.

I told the oldest that I would knit her a hat that she could put on the tree. She protested. She stated that a hat would simply not be enough. I would have to make a scarf and mittens as well. "Well, just a hat won't keep them warm enough."

After some careful thought of the colors that she wanted to use, we sat down and made them. She helped knit the scarf in her own way and designed most of it.

She placed it on the tree today.

The Day

On the phone during dinner preparation with Husband who will be working late:

Wife: (with frustration) They just won't give me a minute today. They seem to need me for everything.

Husband: Um,hmm.

Wife: (still frustrated) The oldest one had naughty spot today for refusing to help clean up toys.

Husband: Um, hmm.

Wife: (frustrated and disappointed that Husband is working late again) Yummy dinner tonight. How's your day been going?

Husband: Well, the toilet backed up in the Parish Center, and there was a geyser of waste that went everywhere. We had to call a professional cleaning service to clean it up. They said that we cannot use the Parish Center for a week to ten days now because the air quality is so poor.

Wife: You win!

"Movin' on Up"

He's walking! Yes, that's right, as of yesterday, my boy is walking. He's not exactly a track star (yet), but he took two whole steps without assistance. I was so proud for him.

So this morning I began quizzing my husband, "Do you remember the date when the oldest walked? Crawled? When the youngest crawled, huh, huh. huh?" Of course he didn't. Because only passionate mama's remember every tooth, every rash, every step.

This means that our youngest is growing up. (Tear.)

Be positive

Every week we do so many important and meaningful things, but we never spend the time reflecting on the positive. Rather we dwell on the negative and find imperfection everywhere.

Well, I'm going to make a renewed effort to dwell on the positive, something that can be a challenge for me.

The things that I did well this week:

1. Went to Home Depot and purchased correct baseboard for my daughters room, solo.

2. Sent out the invitations for my daughter's birthday party, via email.

3. Brought the youngest to the doctor for a routine check-up with little incident, solo, again.

It feels good to be empowered by the situations in life that might be a little out of the comfort zone. A big orange building with evaporating salespeople and seasoned construction professionals did not stop a 4 foot 10 inch woman from walking out with a three foot baseboard heater with confidence. But I also purchased new tulip bulbs, so I guess it wasn't as masculine a trip as possible.

Agustin

The first virus of this school year will be named Agustin, after a dear priest my husband and I remember from our childhood parish. It is still confusing. It seems to only cause head congestion with little or no runny noses. A slight temperature, but as of yet, no cough, no stomach upset, or weird rash.

Agustin has only hit the oldest. We are trying to keep the youngest away from her grasp so that he can get his one year check up tomorrow, complete with shots! We will have to split shift tomorrow, which I am not crazy about when one of the kids has shots.

I really don't like viruses.

Birthday invitations

I thought that I would try and email my oldest one's birthday invitations instead of physically sending them this year. It's greener, it's easier, and it's cheaper.

But apparently, when one does this you have to take into account the many different operating systems that people have. I have had to send this simple invite as a publisher file, a works file, a pdf file, and a jpeg in the hopes that someone would be able to open it up!

If this doesn't work out we may be having a princess party with the dogs.

Split-Shift Wednesdays

Wednesday's are one of those complicated days in our house. My husband works a full day and the oldest has to come to and from school (which is an hour away) while he is at work. So, to make the schedule less intense, my husband brings the oldest in and I pick her up so that he can get some work done. But some how, it looks easier on paper than it actually is.

And today the youngest had to come along for the ride. So that meant two straight hours in a car seat. Yuk! Needless to say, he was overjoyed to move around after lunch. All Wednesday's will not look like this.

P.S. Ballet class went well for the oldest, but left a little to be desired for mom. And dinner was very good.

First Day of School

Well, before we knew it the first day of school was upon us today. The summer flew by in a hurried frenzy. After our late blooming and unwelcome virus, George, blew over in late June, it was time to start enjoying the summer, and one another, free of sickness. But the weather didn't get the memo. July was wet, but we made the best of it, trying to do all the things that we wanted before summer turned to fall. August was met with a new nephew and the world's strangest vacation. And then, there it was, the first day of school, full of excitement and comfort. The same classroom, same toys, same teachers, and some of the same friends. Some new friends, new things to learn, new adventures, and new projects. We had a good morning.

This afternoon will be a new adventure:

For our oldest: ballet class
For our youngest: cooking dinner with daddy.
(This could go very badly.)

It's great to be back!

George

So, apparently there is no cold and flu seaon in our house; it's just all the time. The oldest one's fever lasted over a week. She was so wiped out after it finally passed. We had one healthy week, in which everything else became a challenge, and then we were back to fever-town. Everyone except the husband was marred by the cold/fever virus, even me. Five days after the latest installment of sickness started we are finally seeing the light of day.

I think I am going to start naming the germs like hurricanes. I think we'll call this one "George."

Sickness

To be sick, or not to be sick. That is the question.

The oldest is going for her second fever in one month. Good times. But Tylenol seems to be working its magic and she is loving sitting on the couch and watching as much PBS as she likes. Hopefully, the merry-go-round will end soon and we can get off the ride of never ending sickness.

In the mean time, I have concerned grandmothers, godmothers, and mothers praying that someday soon we will surface for a fun spring!

Mother's Day

I imagine that it is no accident that Mother's Day falls squarely in the month of May, the month dedicated to Our Lady. So I invite everyone to say an extra Hail Mary tomorrow for a special lady in your life.

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers, grandmothers, godmothers, great-grandmothers, aunts, and all those ladies in our lives that have been like a mother to us.

Mommy Moment

Today was a gift.

The husband took both children shopping for Mother's Day. I needed some mommy time after the oldest ate toothpaste and painted the bathroom with it, and the youngest had a six hour aversion to napping yesterday. I was minutes away from having blood vessels burst in my brain. The husband was warned.

I slept in, I showered, and spent the morning at the library. For me, that's heaven. (And the husband is in the middle of cleaning the kitchen.) I couldn't ask for a more calming day.

The Small Stuff

1. The Big 3-0!: The husband is turning thirty. It may seem like small change to some, but to us it's a big deal. This calls for a celebration! So this week I booked a hall and we are going to greet thirty with enthusiasm.

2. Brother/Sister time: I cannot take much credit for this one, but my husband and his sister finally had a chance to have some brother/sister time this week. A nice phone call goes a long way.

3. Playtime: The kids and I played for a whole half hour today uninterrupted.

Prayer in Chaos

So, whatever happened to all that prayerful quiet time that I was supposed to try and cultivate? That was before the ear infection, the virus, and the strange sleep (or lack there of) schedule that screams that something else is array.

Well, until the kids are back on track there is always AmericanCatholic.org. I love this site. Have you been there or am I the last one to discover this secret? They have a minute mediation that suits my schedule, a daily catholic question, saint of the day, and a free e-newsletter. This site will soon be part of my online routine. Anything that helps me cultivate prayer in this busy world is appreciated.

Which brings me to an interesting question. Is their prayer in chaos? Our parish distributes "Bringing Home the Word," by St. Anthony Messenger Press in our weekly bulletin. It's full of positive commentary, suggestions for magnifying the church at home, and more. They suggested that each family take an hour a weekend as "pasture time," when we can make ourselves still to listen to God's message. Here's the thing: not going to happen with real little ones. But that's okay.

There is prayer in chaos and I'm not talking about those times when we invoke prayer as we lose our patience ("Lord, Give Me Strength!"). Seeing children play and explore, sing and scream, dance with shear delight is prayer. A wise person once told me that children are God's gift to a marriage, and your marriage is your gift to your children. So what better way to honor God's gift than to encourage delight in our children as we live a prayer to God.

The Power of Pink

Monday, 4/27: Fever rising. Little one sees doctor. Nothing abnormal found.

Tuesday, 4/28 5AM: Fever 104.4. Call doctor. Ready to go to emergency room. Doctor says not so fast, try a cool bath and Motrin.

Still Tuesday, 4/28 4PM: Fever 104.6. No change. Doctor says go to ER. Panicked parents.

Still Tuesday, 4/28 7:30 PM: Fever 103.6. Emergency room doctor's diagnosis: ear infection. Lots of pink medicine will save the day. Parents take a deep breath and thank God.

Wednesday, 4/29 7PM: Everyone's fever breaks. Relief.

What a difference a week makes! Having a sick kid can send a parent through the roof with worry. It's no picnic for the sick child either. It seems that the littlest one has my knack for high fevers. Will buy stockpile of Tylenol. Life is such a miracle, but so fragile. With Mother's Day right around the corner, I am reminded of how blessed I am to have such a wonderful and healthy family, now.

While I was away tending to the sick and fancy-free, there has been much concern over the newly discovered H1N1 virus. More germs than my Lysol can handle! Thank God children are washable.

Unsolicited advice: As soon as the kids come home from a public place or close contact with other children, I wash their hands. It wouldn't hurt to change their clothes either. Some germs can last hours even days on surfaces. And above all, I encourage them to never touch their eyes or nose unless they have just washed their hands. Most germs enter the body through the eyes and nose, not the mouth. This is one of those times when we can encourage them not to share. Have them use their elbow when they sneeze. Good for all germs, not just H1N1.

For now, I'm not panicked. I have lots of pink medicine to handle my current crisis.

Chaos Reigns

Like the calm before the storm, last week's beautiful days only led to chaos.

It seems that the oldest one's stuffy nose has led to a fever and a bad cold. The youngest one contracted it as well and has had a sudden aversion to sleeping. This has not helped anyone in the house. He saw the doctor and, as usual, there is nothing that they can do for a low-grade fever and an runny nose. And to top it all off, the mama bird has contracted it, too. Yes, I also have a fever and all the cold symptoms.

So the book discussion group will be, yet again, postponed. It will be even better when I'm off the Tylenol.

Beautiful Days

So, who ordered the beautiful weather?

It's gorgeous around here today, and after the winter that we have had, we could sure use some more days like today. And right on schedule the oldest one is not feeling well. It's probably the beginning of seasonal allergies for her, but until we know for sure, she is on the couch resting with Benadryl.

Today is also Confirmation for our young men and women in our parish. Too long of a mass for me to bring the gang, so we stick around the nest. Confirmation always makes me cry anyway. It's probably just me, but I think that confirmation is such a joyful event that before I know it, buckets of tears are streaming down my face.

The youngest has kept me moving with the joys of never-ending teething, so this week's installment of the book discussion on Bug Russ & Me will be postponed till tomorrow.

Pray that an unfortunate accident does not befall one of the numerous ATV riders that keep driving their toys up and down our road while I toil at the hope that sleep will overcome a teething 9 month old.

Mommy Meltdown

And now for the positive:

1. The oldest has taken numerous outings in underwear and is really potty training.

2. Organized a fun family dinner party with an old friend.

3. Made chocolate chip cookies for the oldest one's class at school.

And now for the not-so-positive:

Alright, so I admit it. I had a mommy meltdown yesterday. Considering that I only have one or two of these a year, it's a big deal. And it all started with a small, but suprising oven fire. I forgot to put away left over chicken and then started the broiler. Lots of smoke, slightly scared older one, and one very stressed mommy.

Sometimes we just have to admit that there has to be a family restructuring before we can move on. It was obvious to me that I had so many things on my mind that I was forgetting things. Forgetting the chicken probably doesn't seem like that big of deal, but it was just the straw that broke mommy camel's back.

As "Sacrament Season" appraches, the hubby is under strict instruction to pull a bit more weight around the house. The oldest must help with her responsibilities. And the littlest one needs to slow down the teething. Seven teeth at nine months.

Dr. Mom's Prescription: More rest, more praying, more quiet time, and more mommy time.

Earth Day

Earth day. A day designed to encourage people to care for the planet. We are asked to nurture and care for others and everything that God has provided. It is always a step in the right direction when we listen and respond to the needs of others: person or planet.

In our home, we recycle, use reusable bags when we shop, we installed CFL's and have fuel efficient cars. We buy local foods and use reusable bottles for our water on trips. We do as much as we are able, but it still seems to me like the news is getting this false impression that people are still not doing enough. Millions recycle and have been since the early '90's. CFL's were economic long before the Green movement took hold.

The real solutions to these global issues lie in the hands of lawmakers. People want to see more done. Progress, please. Do not wait till gas is $4.00 a gallon before you make a fuel efficient family car that can handle a real winter. I cannot put a wind turbine in my backyard, nor can I afford solar panels. Until a music director can make zillions of dollars, this is it. I pray that someday this issue will be a distant memory and all people will care for what God has provided.

What do you and your family do for Earth Day?

Celebrating Easter

After coming off a 40 day season like Lent, which can be emotionally exhausting, who wants to dive into a 50 day season filled with its own high's and low's? Not me. At least, that is what I used to say.

The husband and the whole family go through so much stress during Lent and now it's spring. There's so much spring cleaning to get done, the kid's want to get out, and who could forget having some fun after all the craziness. But I did not anticipate the oldest child.

She loved the Lenten Links that we did as a family. She wanted to know what season was next and what we were going to do for it. The mother's internal dialogue went something like this, "You have got to be kidding me! I guess the Links worked...oh dear, she makes a point...what should we do for the next season?"

Thank goodness for Celebrate Easter's 50 Days by The Word Among Us. There are some really great ideas and suggestions on how to celebrate the Easter season without a great deal of stress or preparation. Check it out and if your family has a special way of celebrating the Easter season please share.

Being Bookish

As children, it can be difficult to truly appreciate and understand the life of a parent. And that's okay. Ideally God did not design children to be weighed down with the pressures of adulthood. The hope and joy is when children grow into adults, and have children of their own, that they begin to unfold the love and mystery of parenthood. The late Tim Russert makes a valiant effort to understand and appreciate the life that his father, Big Russ, lived, and provided, for his children in Big Russ & Me, Father and Son: Lessons of Life. A wonderful collection of thoughts, feelings, and lessons for parents and children.

In the first seven chapters there are many themes: food, respect, faith, and many more. Russert seems to allow his feelings to flow easily from page to page, but as we learn, it was not easy for Big Russ to communicate his feelings. Do we make the effort to communicate our feelings to others and especially God? Do we take the time to listen? How do you and your family communicate feelings?

Big Russ seems to have made a strong impression on young Russ in the way he taught young Russ to respect others, an important concept that is often lost in modern parenting. Respecting your family by thinking progressively, being grateful, and caring for one another. Respecting others by giving strong first impressions, being honest and hardworking, and treating others as you would want to be treated. How do we model respect? Do we take care of our aging parents? Do we look others in the eye when they speak to us?

Faith played a large role in Russet's life and he spoke candidly about being an altar boy and going to Catholic school. Many changes were instituted after Vacatian II and Russert talks about the adjustments in his life. Faith was everywhere for him, at home, school, and at church. How do we already show our faith? How can we model our faith even more?

Family. It's a challenge, but one worth undertaking. Russert talked openly about the importance of sharing meals together, doing homework at the kitchen table, going to baseball games, and spending time with each other. We all try to do this in different ways. Share how your family loves to spend their time together.

I hope everyone keeps reading the book and if you haven't, borrow a copy soon. Please feel free to comment even if you haven't read the book. It's worth the journey.

The Ring of Fire

Ever have that kind of a week where the climate of your household changes at the drop of a hat? One minute things are going well, and the next well, let's just say it's similar to a volcano eruption.

The littlest one is the proud owner of five teeth and is in the vigorous process of acquiring more. The oldest is in the process of mastering potty training and is prone to emotional upheavals if things do not "go" as planned. Staying calm in the face of adversity is the ultimate test of patience of which this week I have failed on occasion. Needless to say, I have had a great deal of "Lord, give me strength" moments. It's a domino effect. One thing starts to go wrong and the next thing you know, you are standing in a ring of fire with explosions all around you.

I think this deserves a pint of chocolate ice cream, my favorite pajamas, and a foot rub. Oh,husband, where for art thou husband?

Big Russ & Me

Okay everyone, let's get started on the first book of the year in the Being Bookish online bookclub.

The first book is the ever popular Big Russ & Me by the late Tim Russert. When Being Bookish was first started my husband had just finished Big Russ & Me after having it sit on the shelf for a couple of years. We both raved about it and I thought it would make a great start to Being Bookish. But nearly a year ago, Tim Russert suddenly passed on to God, making it even more important that we examine the work left behind by this wonderful man, father, and Catholic. So pick up a copy and join the discussion.

Here is a list of when the discussions will take place:

April 18: The first discussion questions will be posted on chapters 1-7
April 25: The second set of questions on 8-14
May 2: The last set of questions on 15-the Epilogue

There will be posted questions and discussions right on this blog so no navigation issues will occur. Let's get started.

'Tis the Season

Happy Easter, Everyone!

Has anyone else noticed how much easier it is to put together a boy's Easter outfit than a girls Easter outfit?

Oh, my heavens! The hair clips, the tights, the shoes, the dress coat, the sweater to wear under the dress coat because Easter can be anywhere between 20-60 degrees here in the great Northeast, the undergarments, and the most important element: the dress.

There is always much discussion over the dress. Her father picks one, I pick one, and she points out a couple she likes. We decide which three are acceptable and she gets to choose. It is almost never one that her father or I picked. In our house there is a more comfortable back-up dress because one cannot hunt for eggs, eat shrimp, and open Easter baskets in such a beautiful yet uncomfortable garment as an Easter dress. But she insists that the idea of a dress must stay firm or else it might just not be a holiday.

The boy: shirt, pants, sweater vest, jacket, socks, shoes (and a diaper). Oh, they were both beautiful, as God intended. Proud mommy moment.

I'm geared up and ready for a joyfilled Easter season. The intensity of Lent is always inspiring at the start and challenging toward the end. Now, during the Easter season, we celebrate life. How do you celebrate life and the Easter season in your home?

Delegate!

I have made a decision.

There will be more teamwork around the house!

My husband is busier than a cat scratchin', and in the past I have been delibrate in assigning daily household chores for him to accomplish that wouldn't be overwhelming. The oldest child was still pretty small so I would assign her age appropriate tasks so that she could feel satisfied.

But now the oldest isn't too small for most chores with parental assistance and the husband needs to set an example of teamwork. Now, I assign tasks that daddy and the oldest can do together in addition to the daily grind.

My plan is simple. If we all live in the house, and enjoy the comforts of the house, then we all help with the house. Everyone learns responsibility, a bit of appreciation (which can go a long way), and share in an experience that usually results in a stronger family bond. We are not talking about re-grouting the bathroom (which does need to be done), more like setting the table.

If I was sick or had to leave the house for an emergency who would know how this household keeps afloat? By creating opportunities for the children and my husband to learn I create a set of living "sub-plans." And it takes a bit of stress from my life.

So far the oldest generally feels like she is contributing in a more obvious way. The husband is taking the helm of certain household chores and I have 5 minutes to write a blog as I brace for Holy Week.

Ah, Spring!

It's Spring at our house.

Yes, it's still not much above 45 outside and there is still frost on the car windshield in the morning, but we have declared spring!

The snow suits are put away. We have outgrown our snow boots and we have embraced the mud.

Ah, Spring!

Being Prayerful

Confession: Prayer

Let's face it. We are all probably guilty of not praying as much as we would like, or hope, or need. I'm guilty as charged. Prayer is part of the very foundation of our relationship with God, and it always gets put to the back burner.

Look at all the the things that we have to do in the day: getting meals together, getting the kids ready, getting yourself and spouse ready, activities, school, driving all over the earth, shopping, errands, animal chores (love those), cleaning (who could forget cleaning), and bed (ah, sweet relief). After that day who wouldn't pass out in satisfaction that the ride has come to a full and complete stop?

But something happened today that made me think. I love it when that happens.

I was flipping through the channels on the television this afternoon, finding something appropriate for a minute as I tried to make the room stop spinning, when I came upon Sister Lucy. My oldest was busy tearing the room apart when she stopped everything to watch Sister Lucy. Glued. The child dropped everything and was glued!!! Sister Lucy talked a great deal to a puppet named Clare about prayer. (Which also happens to be a major topic in our household with our oldest.) She mentioned that we have to live our life as a prayer, as a living prayer.

What a challenge! What a joy! To live your life as a prayer to God. Imagine that for a moment because I am still having trouble wrapping my mind around it. Not just praying more often, but continually through your life. Think of doing all those day to day things: errands, activities, school, in prayer to God. It certainly calms my stress level a bit. And what a modeling opportunity.

Later, the room stopped spinning, Clare and Sister Lucy said good-bye, and the oldest clamored for more.

Why Are We Learning This?

Every parent goes through moments when they are faced with educational challenges with their children. What should I teach them? When is it time to learn something new? How should I teach them? These are all common and perfectly normal questions. In fact, I would say that if you aren't asking yourself these questions you may be doing your children a disservice.

Every child is different and requires specific attention to their interests and learning styles. For our oldest we have choosen a Catholic School. It best fits her needs right now. But for some children this may not be the best option. We try and take it year by year. Similar to Individual Educational Plan evaluations in public schools, we re-evaluate her academic, spiritual, social, and emotional needs each spring. We model self-evaluation at home and try to show how love of learning and the continuation of learning throughout life is the healthiest option. When we show how we use the information that children learn, then there are less questions about why they are learning certain concepts as they get older. It's all in the application of Faith and knowledge.

Catholic education whether at home or in a classroom setting is peaceful, loving, nuturing, and academically challeging. It helped me gain a greater understanding of my Faith, not as a subject to be taken during the school day or on Sunday mornings, but as a foundation on which we build our lives. There is no equivalent. If the goal is to raise children that are peaceful, nuturing, and faithfilled then we, as parents, have to look carefully at the educational methods that we use to convey those ideals.

How do you continue your education? How do you foster Catholic education in others?

The Small Stuff

Last night, my husband and I were feeling quite overwhelmed at the amount of responsibilities that we have before, during, and after the Easter season. The details are suffocating. While we were sitting there being daunted by the shear size of the tasks that lay before us, we realized that it was time to stop spending our time feeling sorry for ourselves and start working at accomplishing our tasks. We had some small victories and it felt really good to know that we had achieved success no matter how small.

This week, there were some important successes.

1.Brownies. I made Coffee Almond Brownies for the choir tonight. They needed something to take the performance edge off and recommit to a great Easter.

2.Potty Victory. The oldest used the potty at school successfully and the potty outside the house again. Yeah!

3.Emails. I have been really unable to email our friends that live far away. This week I was able to get started on catching up.


Sometimes all we have are the small successes, but it feels really good to remind yourself how much you have accomplished.

Quick reminder to all those Being Bookish members out there: Get a copy of Big Russ and Me soon. We begin discussions in 1 week.

Scrambled Eggs

Ever have so many thoughts running through your head at the same time that the English language just doesn't lend itself to communicate all of them? My brain is full of so many things it is like scrambled eggs up there today.

So let's start with the Thank You's:

Thank you to the oldest for taking a nice nap today.

Thank you to the youngest for not being too cranky with your teething to play with me today. (I really liked that.)

Thank you to the car for not taking a long vacation weekend and getting us to and from where we needed to be today.


Requests:

That the youngest sleep for a change tonight.

That the oldest sleep through the whole night and not be too disturbed by the little one if he wakes up (which he won't because I just asked nicely).

That the husband find some vast store of patience so I can loose mine.

That the dogs eat only their food tonight and please stop running through the mud.

Prayers:

For Life: that all life be blessed and know it is intentional and celebrated.

For Guidance: that our family can receive divine guidance when the oldest uses ketchup as a painting medium and my shirt is covered in carrot.

For Love & Hope: that we may give love and hope.

Still feels like scrambled eggs up there.

Locating Trust

The oldest has a shoe in either hand and is invading the kitchen.

"No, no. no," said the father very quickly as he observed the strange behavior.

The oldest began to stutter a bit and used every ounce of concentration to say something quickly before the father would put a stop to this new adventure. "But I'm trying to locate them," she said as we looked down to notice that she had sorted all the shoes downstairs in the kitchen in a very nice semi-circle.

What was the father to do? He laughted and let her "locate" till her hearts content and then helped her put them all away when the game was over.

Life is funny. One minute you are having a pleasant conversation with your husband and the next thing you know you have a prentend bowling alley of shoes in your kitchen. But sometimes we have to let go, stop trying to control everything and trust. Trust ourselves, trust our spouses, trust God.

Easy to say. A lifetime challenge to practice.

The Small Stuff

Webster's Dictionary defines success in three ways: (a) a degree or measure of succeeding (b) favorable or desired outcome (c) the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence.

Everyday we are bombarded with images of wealth and granduer and told that this is what we should want. Popular culture perpetuates this theory with television shows and songs that are made to influence our thinking. Recently, tragically, the ecomony has forced many people out of work and those popular images seem more out of reach then ever. People are turning inward and helping one another, learning how to live on less, and expecting more from the simple pleasures in life. There's no fancy camp for the kids this summer, no trips to Africa, no new cars, no latest fashions, just learning how to live better on less.

Does this mean that people are less successful simply because they do not have as many things as they would like?

So often as parents, we cannot always see the favorable outcome or the desired success because we are caught up in the day to day routine of our lives. But there is success. Small though it is sometimes, out kids won't care if they go to Africa, but if their parents played with them. I know that I am preaching to the choir, but I often struggle with the reality of not being about to provide all the things that some parents can to their children because my husband and I choose a more meaningful path. Are we less succeessful?

Today's Successes:

1. The Dishwasher. Fixed and doing the job of ten people right now.

2. The Classmate. My oldest finally spoke up for herself and told her teacher, after working with her for 7 months, when a classmate pushed her today. Yeah!

3. Potty Victory. My oldest had a potty victory outside the house today. Yeah!

A pretty successful day in my opinion. What are your successes?

Ok, Let's Talk About It.

Breastfeeding.

There has been some buzz in the blogosphere recently about the toll that breastfeeding takes on mothers. (Read the article.) Some women with very loud thoughts feel that breastfeeding chains them to their baby so that they can never get a moments peace. While others replied that a mother's job is to nurture and it should not feel like slavery if you really take it seriously.

Here's my reality:

We have a decent risk of diabetes on both sides of our family and a severe risk of chronic asthma; breastfeeding was a must for our family. I never even really considered an alternative, but I wasn't going to enter into this new chapter in our family's life without a bit of research.

I read books, talked to other women in and out of my family for their take on breastfeeding, and most importantly, talked to my husband about what we should do together. We committed to the first six months of breastfeeding. We bought a pump before the baby was born. We purchased all the supplies: bags, breast pads, nursing bras, all of it. I was still working outside the home at that point and I was not going to let the baby have anything other than breast milk. I loved breastfeeding so much that I kept it up till our oldest was able to have whole milk. (Even though the last few months of my job did not like me breastfeeding.)

Pumping may not please many intense breastfeeding mothers, but it is a solution for those that work outside the home or those that would appreciate the freedom to complete necessary parts of the day without disturbing the baby's routine. It also allows the father and others to enjoy feeding in a way they would not have been able to with exclusive breast feeding. And we always have to keep in mind the real possibilty of an emergency or illness that may take the mother away from the baby for some time....frozen breast milk is the best.

Alright, so enough about the joys of pumping. The bottom line is that mothers and fathers have to do the research and judge for themselves what is the best for their family. Set reasonable goals for yourself and don't listen to all those people that get bothered by the fact that you have committed to a natural way of feeding your baby. I read once that 90% of new mothers leave the hospital or birthing center committed to breastfeeding, but find that it was too difficult; only 30% stay committed.

It's not easy. There's nothing about parenting that is easy, but if you can, do the research and consider breastfeeding. And let's not be offended when some of us choose a different path. Maybe, just maybe, it's a deeper issue than just breastfeeding.

Sounds of the House

Here are some famous phrases from our house lately;

"I tried to write my name," as she pointed to the window. "What did you write on the window with?" asked her mother. "Cheese," said the three year-old.

"Look, Mom. I am conditioning it," said the three year-old as she smeared a tube of her brother's hydrocortosone cream all over her hair.

"When I'm naked I look like Eve!"

"Today was a birthday party at school, but there were no crowns or tiaras!"

"Hum...bkelec," said the little one as he spit up his afternoon snack.

"Woof!" went the dog who refused to stay outside and enjoy the few minutes of sunshine that we have had this winter.

"Why can I never find a towel?" said the husband this morning.

To the tune of "Living on a Prayer' by Bon Jovi "We're half way there. Whoa, livin' on a pear. Take my hand and we will make I swear. Whoa, livin' on a pear," sang the family at dinner as we remembered how mommy tried to coax the little one into eating his pears.

Stretch It Out

Has anybody else noticed that even though the price of fuel has dropped since the climb last summer, the prices on food have remained high? Whoever does the shopping and cooking in your house has to be a miracle worker to make the same amount of money stretch to meet every one's needs. In my family, we have found that we just had to increase our budget to meet household needs. Not an easy thing to do with a limited income.

Here are some tips on how to keep that "green" working for you through the week so that we waste none and want none.

1. Have no real entree planned for a night? No meat in site and the fridge seems bare. How about vegetable soup? I bet you have onions, celery, and carrots, a good place to start for a great soup. Even if you don't have those veggies, any veggies will do. Throw some rice or pasta in it and it's delicious and nutritious.

2. Left over meatloaf or hamburgers? How about chili? Crumble up your meat and put together your favorite chili fixin's. Make sure to add the cumin and your family won't know what hit them.

3. No bread? When your out at the store always pick up a package of tortilla wraps. No bread, no problem. Use a wrap and fill it full of veggies, peanut butter and jelly, cold cuts, whatever.

4. Eggs. The miracle food. Breakfast, Lunch or Dinner, make a frittata with eggs, cheese, veggies, or herbs and you have a hit.

Of course, many of us, already know some of these tips, but new ones are always appreciated.

Taking A Look Back

In search for inspiration for today's blog, I took a scroll back in time to some previous posts from last year. I read "God Shots" and determined that although I was in the throws of my first trimester with the littlest one, I was a much calmer person than I am now.

Time to stop, reflect, and pray on what allowed me to be more at peace then. Hormones? Maybe. But I would be willing to guess that it was just time. Time to write this blog, time to play more with the little one, time to work on my hobbies. It is completely understandable that I wouldn't have lots of time after a new baby to do all sorts of things, but now the littlest one isn't so new and it is time to have time.

Take this self-reflective journey with me. How have you changed over the last year? Good changes? Not so good changes? How can you bring yourself around so that you can live a more Spirited life?

Maybe this would be a good time to read a good book on life, love, and parenting by someone who had something to say on the subject. Big Russ and Me by the late Tim Russert is an excellent start. So please join me in the rebirth of Being Bookish, our on-line bookclub featuring Catholic authors and Catholic concerns. Each month we will be featuring a different book and discussion. Find Big Russ and Me and join the conversation this April.

This week in Small Stuff

It's that time again, where we share our small successes for the week.

1. The Dishwasher. The oldest and I made a game plan last week of all the spring cleaning that must be accomplished before the craziness of Holy Week and first on the list was "The Dishwasher." It has decided to take spring break and failed to notify our very busy family. So I called a repairman, he actually came, and is in the process of fixing it. Hurray!

2. Muffins. I made time to bake pumpkin muffins with one of the best upcoming chefs under four years old yesterday.

3. The Swallower. The littlest one seems to have trouble with his "swallower." He just wasn't eating any of the baby food that I was making for him. It was the same recipes that I used for his sister and I know that they tasted good because I tasted them, yet he wouldn't eat. Then, I realized he needed foods that were a smoother consistency. Since that revelation, he eats his food every time.

Shoes, Shoes, & More Shoes!

"Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. It has been three days since my last blog..."

Every Sunday night, my parents come over for dinner. They enjoy spending time with the kids and staying on top of all the family news. (On Monday's we have dinner with my husband's parents. I know...it can be family overload sometimes, but we love them.)

This Sunday my mother brought over ravioli and a sleeve of rolls. Delicious! So after all the excitement had died down and the littlest one was on his way to dreamland, I turned around to see my oldest with my shoe stuffed with bread from dinner. Shocked, I said, "Why is there bread in my shoe?" To which she replied, "I was only trying to keep it all together."

What do you say after that? I told her that I understood, but that Mommy's shoe was not the best idea. She removed all the bread and put it in the trash. While I was helping her do that, the dog decided to partake in the crumbs that were left behind in the shoe, licking the interior of the shoe clean.

Struggling to save my shoe, I shooed the dog away and turned to my husband, trying to hold back the laughter, I said, "Your going to have to disinfect that."

And the dog licked her lips in satisfaction,
the oldest moved on to another task,
and my husband and I lost our battle with composure and laughed ourselves silly.

Dream Loud

When the stars aline, once in a great while, the children are supposed to have an overlap of about 45 minutes in the afternoon when they are both napping. Ah, thank Jesus. Well, today was one of those golorious moments.

Before I but the oldest down, she is reminded that her little sibling is trying hard to stay asleep. We have a saying, "No thumping, no bumping, no taking, no dancing, no jumping, no singing, no nothing." It's silly, but it works. Today, at the end of the little poem she says, "but I can dream, right?" I said, "Yes, you can dream. Dream loud!" She loved that and I got to enjoy 45 minutes of peace.

Do we dream loud? As adults with many responsiblities, we are often entrenched in day to day routines. Do we give ourselves time to pray about our dreams? Not the dreams we have in our sleep, but our hopes and wishes for the future? Do we give ourselves the opportunity to think about our dreams for the world? How can we be used by God to make dreams come true for others?

Being Good Listeners

So for a three year old listening can be a really challenging task. They can speak in sentences and add inflection and slang, mimicking others they like, but physically they really cannot understand direction or explanation when there is more than 5-7 words used as at time. They start to tune you out and get lost in all those words.

This Lent my husband and I are trying extra hard to use short and more meaningful direction. And the three year old is being reminded of her listening needs as well. Together the goal is to encourage greater understanding and respect for one another and God. We sit and read from the Children's Bible so that she can understand the importance of listening to the Word of God as well as Mommy and Daddy's words.

But sometimes we aren't very good listeners either. Today, on the way to my littlest one's routine check-up we passed an accident that was being attended by firefighters, rescue personnel, and police. Everyone seemed to be physically well, but there was a small child involved. The ironic part was that this was the same exact spot that my family was in a similar accident one and half years ago. Exact spot!

I was pregnant for the little one at the time and it is only through the Grace of God that I held on to him. The car was totalled. Our oldest was shaken and had nightmares for awhile. After spending an evening in the emergency room of our local hospital, we all emerged bruised and sore, but very grateful to have each other. Seeing all those people today, going through the same anxiety, as we were driving our healthy children to the doctor for a routine check-up, I began to get the feeling that God was trying to tell me in no uncertain terms that I was blessed. To trust in Him and pray for those in this accident.

It can be so hard to hear God through all the everyday noise. When are we good listeners?

The Small Stuff

To be a successful parent sometimes we have to see the small success everyday and have faith that they will someday add up to a larger success for our family. Not an easy task if you ask me. It takes a special person to take this journey. And I admit that sometimes the future can seem pretty bleak for me. That's when I know that I need a "Mommy Moment" to regroup and pray for help, strength, and guidance to get through the next hour, and then the next, and then the next. These moments usually come when I've locked myself in the bathroom with the youngest one rolling his way through the living room and spitting up as he goes, and the oldest one beating down the bathroom door wanting to know when I'm coming out because she would like a snack. Comical though it is, no matter how small, sometimes we need to be reminded of our success.

1. I successfully got my husband and our oldest off to school on time, happy, well-fed, and ready to enjoy the day

2. I successfully made a hot lunch for the family without being late picking up the oldest from school and tending to all the other needs of the morning.

3. I successfully got the little one down for an afternoon nap so that I could write this blog

Thank God for the ability to see success.

Lenten Links

Each year I dread Lent.

Not because it's the season of sacrifice, but because I loose my husband each Lent to the hundreds of activities that he has at work. So, each year, I make a pledge..."I will not dread this Lent. I will do my best to make it a meaningful Lent, full of prayer and self-reflection. And each activity that my husband attends is one less activity that stands in the way of actually having a conversation with him."

But the truth is that often, I get bogged down in the day to day grind and the build-up to Easter that I have very little time to focus on a meangingful Lent. I'm just trying to survive so that my husband can come home in the afternoon on Easter Sunday to a house full of happy family and friends and lots of good food. No easy task.

But this year is a little different. Our oldest is getting to the age where Lent can really begin to be a meaningful season and I began to think of ways that she could learn the joy of Lent. Years ago, when Regan ruled the world and hair defied gravity in unusual ways, a nun at school made us complete something I call "Lenten Links." It was a purple paper chain with forty links for each student. Every link had an instruction written inside for the student to undertake with their caregivers at home. The idea was to remove a link each day of Lent as a visual understanding of Lent while encouraging giving, praying, or even sacrifice . As a kid, I loved this project and looking back it was one of the first times I began to understand Lent.

So you guessed it. We made "Lenten Links" this year. With instructions to "Pray for someone you love," or "Draw a picture of Lent." She loves it! We are focusing on being better listeners, helpers, and sharers with our Links this year. Thank you, Sister Virginia.

P.S. Stay tunned for updates on Being Bookish. The adventure starts again.